Feeling frustrated with your child’s reluctance to study, or refusal to listen to you? Though many factors play a role in shaping a ‘good kid’, parents still can make the greatest impact on what children ultimately becomes. No matter how bad children behaviour is, changing the way we deal with the children can make a difference. Start making the difference today to shape a succesful child who is prepared for the future! This can be done by believing there is nothing wrong with the child! Understand that the child has a different perception, respect the child’s model of the world, and reframe to change the child’s attitudes and perceptions.
For things to change, parents must change. If a parent’s attempt doesn’t work, change the strategy, be flexible in managing the child, break away limiting self-beliefs; guide children with questions and not tell them what to do head-on. And finally, encourage the child to dream.
Highly effective parents encourage their children to have big dreams, regardless of how crazy they may be. It does not matter if their dreams may sound totally off the planet. The important thing is that their goals excite and drive them to want to learn and excel. Their dreams will change as they grow older, but it does not matter as life goals are always work in progress. Helping them find their goal allows them to gain direction and purpose in life. Some of them might not know what they want, but you, as parents, will realize that it happens due to their limiting self-belief. Encourage them to dream, and create a life path vision board to cover major milestones with deadlines set to it. By letting the children have big dreams, who knows, one day they could actually make them happen.
A parent’s role changes as children grow up. When children are young, this role is to nurture, protect and guide them. Parents must continue to do this, but to lesser extent, as children grow older. As children mature, the most important role parents take on is to help prepare them to be independent.
People are not born with the essential skills to be parents, although some people have a natural temperament that makes it easier for them to parent. To some degree, learning how to parent involves considerable trial and error. Parents who are open to learning how to improve their parenting skills usually become better parents over the course of time. When in doubt about the parenting style, parent may talk to other parents, attend parenting classes, and gather information from books, magazines, television, and radio. If parents still have major concern, they can consult with a professional who specializes in working with parents and children.
Parenting is the process of actively providing a safe, secure, and nurturing environment for the children. It requires flexibility to meet the unique needs of individual children, the firmness to set needed limits and the maturity to sometimes set aside parents needs and desires for the benefit of the children.
Parenting practices around the world share three major goals: ensuring children’s health and safety, preparing children for life as productive adults and transmitting cultural values. A high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development.
“Family is the first school for young children, and parents are powerful models.” —Alice Sterling Honig
Source: http: www.psychologytoday.com; http://schools.nyc.gov/NR/rdonlyres/DEF1E968-827F-4B23-B50A-F139D71E5C6E/119501/Basicsofgoodparenting0001.pdf; www.prime.sg
Writer: Aulia Nurdini
Editor: Oliver Nicholas Phoa, Frahel, dan Dewi Natalia
